Survey: Break Up Sex – Do It or Don't?
8Jan2009 Filed under: Miscellaneous Author: FemmeFairyGodmotherSo, I got dumped. Unceremoniously. Yeah. Can we say I was dumped when we weren’t girlfriends? I have decided that we can. So, I was dumped.
Completely relative to that, I was thinking about old Dykes to Watch Out For comic books. Any of you who haven’t read them should immediately get online and buy them all. In any event, Mo and Harriet break up and have one last night of (presumably) great sex.
We didn’t get to do that. I, darlings, get cold sores when I’m stressed out or sick and I have been ridiculously stressed out so on the Day of the Dumping, I had TWO of them. :eyeroll: So attractive. I couldn’t so much as kiss her. I suggested that we reconvene at a future time for the sole purpose of break up sex but so far the Foolish Woman has resisted Sigh. I think that if I’m gonna get dumped then I ought to at least get break up sex out of the deal, but no.
So here’s the actual Lesbian Life Lesson: Have break up sex.
So, tell me your thoughts on break up sex. Good idea or bad? Revisiting the break up to have the sex? What do you think of that? Leave me a comment!
And PS … You don’t have to have a WordPress blog to leave a comment. Anyone can. So do it. Leave a comment. C’mon. Give a femme some love. Especially since I just got dumped. *Someone* has to give me some love! 
8 Responses to “Survey: Break Up Sex – Do It or Don't?”
Leave a reply
About Femme Fairy Godmother
The Femme Fairy Godmother is the alterego of a Michigan femme who loves to give (mostly unsolicited) advice to everyone regardless of sexual orientation. Also, the FFG has an overwhelming urge to mother everyone. And by mother I mean tell you how to live your life.
lesfriendly
January 8th, 2009 at 11:18 am
*pats back*
i had a couple of break up sex with 2 of my ex girlfriends. it gives you closure, believe me, knowing you’re doing it for the last time
Julie
January 8th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
Here is some virtual love! I have to say I think break up sex is a bad idea. Prolonging the break-up and leading to awkward ‘if the sex is so good why are we splitting up conversations’. I have to say I’ve never been dumped…touch wood…but I have done some dumping and in my experience having break up sex will only lead to future awkward situations. But that said, maybe you feel you’re owed one!
Julie
January 11th, 2009 at 12:46 am
hmmm…i’ve not only done break up sex but i’ve done the dramatic, elongated break up, the “we’re now just fuck buddies until we meet someone else” break up and the on again/off again break up – all of which feature post break-up sex. at the end of the day though, it’s a waste of time and energy and either leaves you angsting mroe about a break-up you didn’t want or wondering “ewww…what the hell was i thinking?!?!” don’t beat yourself up if it happens cause hey, it’s a lesbian thing. but it’s not one of our more tasteful attributes in my opinion.
Billi
January 12th, 2009 at 9:36 pm
I don’t think breakup sex is the best idea. It does leave one thinking about how good the sex was or why leave someone that can still make you feel so good.. unless it’s the sad emotional goodbye sex and then you need to hit it and never talk to the woman again
Sebastiene
January 27th, 2009 at 1:55 pm
First of all, to the host: Your hot, and love will find you again soon!(Hopefully in an open air hotel room in Thailand spreading tropical coconut milk all over her body…)
I would guess that break-up sex guidelines are probably as complicated as the ones for the Full Femme Fit. One size will never fit all (or even most).
I have one friend who did this break-up sex thing for about a year on and off much like Julie above. In this case,I have to warn you be prepared when you find a new GF that your ex is very likely to feel she still has exclusive rights to you, even if she initiated the break-up and it was over a year ago. (This can also be reversed)
Another warning from my own case history: Break up sex can be extremely délicieux -depending on how it is done. Prepare to let it set the bar. In fact, I still use two particular break-up sex scenarios for masturbatory fodder, and that was over 5 years ago. If regular sex was only this good.
In the end it probably comes down to the players involved, how long you think you will have to wait to have sex again, how good the sex was with your partner,and how much drama your into but maybe drama enhances your “O” ? For me it is way too intense and sad to know I am making love to someone for the last time. If it can just be hot sex though? Hmmmmm…
kelly
January 27th, 2009 at 3:40 pm
big kisses darling girl! this lady is for sure missing out. sadly, i can’t weigh in on the breakup sex question, never having had it. usually i’m mad or sad instead of having sex. hrm.
*She*
March 4th, 2009 at 7:34 pm
Yes, have breakup sex. Just with someone else, not the ex. Problem solved.
Akki
September 10th, 2009 at 1:19 am
I’m glad you’re calling it break up sex and not break up love making. The intimacy between two people plays out on so many levels, not the least of which is spiritual. Yeah sometimes partners just have sweaty hot sex, however, even that is under the umbrella of loving and caring for one another. Can’t see for me the ability to simply have sex on the way out the door. The bright side could be leaving on a high note.