This isn’t an official Lesbian Life Lesson because it’s not something I can decide for you. I can’t give you a definitive do it or don’t.
Not that long ago, I was pretty anti-shaving. I should be clear that by shaving, I mean the Girl Bits. My opinion was that if you didn’t like the Girl Bits the way they came, then you didn’t need to be anywhere near mine. End of story. Oh, I shaved my bikini line when I wore a swimsuit but that’s it. I didn’t want to date anyone who shaved either. In fact, one quite butch chick I dated completely wigged me out by mentioning, quite casually, that she might want to shave. She didn’t, but I honestly believe it’s just because I was such a pain in the ass about it.
But then. Then, I met someone who shaves. Not everything, but quite a lot. And …. um … in a word, yum. I totally dug it. I am now a convert. I am going to even do it myself. I have special shaving stuff and everything. I can’t say I’m going to get as carried away as some people I know and get a Brazilian, but I’ll definitely “tidy up.” (For the uninformed, a Brazilian is when you pay a ridiculous amount of money to let someone rip all the hair out of your nether regions – front to back – with hot wax. I couldn’t *be* high enough for that to seem like a good idea!)
If there were a lesbian life lesson in this, there would be two. The first is always have an open mind . The second is more complicated. I suppose it could be boiled down to don’t let anyone tell you what to do. If you want to shave, do. If you don’t, don’t. If your lover doesn’t like your choice, she can either get used to it or not get laid. Which do you think she’ll choose?
The Femme Fairy Godmother is the alterego of a Michigan femme who loves to give (mostly unsolicited) advice to everyone regardless of sexual orientation. Also, the FFG has an overwhelming urge to mother everyone. And by mother I mean tell you how to live your life.
G
July 28th, 2009 at 5:10 am
I happen to just have a thing with hair. I don’t like a lot of it. On me, or on others. Maybe it’s my OCD thing, maybe it’s my need to feel clean and streamlined, who knows. But that’s definitely my preference. I wouldn’t change for anyone, and I wouldn’t want anyone to change for me. That being said, I have no gotten laid because I didn’t like someone’s choice on the matter … and I never felt bad about it because it was true to myself.
People are surprised that I do as much shaving as I do, as if somehow since I’m butch I shouldn’t be doing that. Funny.
Jerzi
July 28th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
idk, i need to shave. I feel the smooth feeling is so sexy. and when my girl does it as well.. mmm..i think it keeps “you” clean because theres no hair to hold: smell, bacteria, etc. And i love it best when on my period. it makes everything easier to manage.
Ive also done the Brazlian. I loved that as well. the hair grew back so SMOOTH and soft, like baby hair. it was a great experience. especially the waxing part- it was kind of a turn on. teheheh…
Dawg
July 30th, 2009 at 1:28 pm
I’m partial of trimmed and neat. When shaved hair grows back it tends to give your girlfriend razor burn on her face … and that … just isn’t sexy.
However … shaved … is yummm!
Oh, and, for those who’ve never shaved and do for the first time, when the hair grows back it will itch like a bitch! Must use goldbond talcom powder .. works magically.
P.S. Love the blog.