Comments on: Coming Out Story: (Totally Nonscandalous) http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/ Sat, 06 Mar 2010 16:53:51 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jude http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/comment-page-1/#comment-460 Jude Tue, 06 Oct 2009 14:35:19 +0000 http://femmefairygodmother.com/?p=612#comment-460 Sigh...you're making this butch wait for the good stuff....because that's what femmes do, right? Sigh…you’re making this butch wait for the good stuff….because that’s what femmes do, right?

]]> By: 2momswithaplan http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/comment-page-1/#comment-459 2momswithaplan Tue, 06 Oct 2009 12:43:21 +0000 http://femmefairygodmother.com/?p=612#comment-459 "Out of me burst the truth: “I am, too.”" I love how you confessed who you were without really thinking about it. It's as if your brain was trying to tell your heart something. I really loved reading your story. Thank you so much for sharing. :) “Out of me burst the truth: “I am, too.””

I love how you confessed who you were without really thinking about it. It’s as if your brain was trying to tell your heart something. I really loved reading your story. Thank you so much for sharing. :)

]]> By: Dawg http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/comment-page-1/#comment-454 Dawg Tue, 06 Oct 2009 00:09:15 +0000 http://femmefairygodmother.com/?p=612#comment-454 So what this in the 60's? No wait ... the 50's? :) So what this in the 60’s? No wait … the 50’s? :)

]]> By: Delayne http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/comment-page-1/#comment-452 Delayne Mon, 05 Oct 2009 21:50:47 +0000 http://femmefairygodmother.com/?p=612#comment-452 Thanks for the story. I posted mine on my blog (as not to bog down your comments page), and also because I wrote it before I read yours but after I read Two Moms... Also I've posted you in my "read these"... Because you are awesome. Just thought you'd like to know! Thanks for the story. I posted mine on my blog (as not to bog down your comments page), and also because I wrote it before I read yours but after I read Two Moms…

Also I’ve posted you in my “read these”… Because you are awesome. Just thought you’d like to know!

]]> By: Kimber http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/comment-page-1/#comment-435 Kimber Sat, 03 Oct 2009 04:17:53 +0000 http://femmefairygodmother.com/?p=612#comment-435 I came out to my parents during Christmas break, when I was 20. That was the year I also came home with tattoos and a tongue piercing (that lovely jewel is long-gone, btw). I tried to hide those things, but mom noticed the tongue right away, and when she came in to wake me up one morning the sleeves of my t-shirt had hitched up and she noticed the tattoos. *gulp* And that was *before* the talk! We were sitting at the dining room table, having tea. My step-dad was elsewhere...maybe out, maybe downstairs watching football? I told her that I had something I wanted to tell her...that I was dating someone new, and *her* name was N. She was surprised, for sure - I'd had boyfriends in high-school and afterwards - but also really supportive. She suggested that maybe *she* should tell my dad. I found out later that his response was something to the effect of: "maybe she'll have better taste in women". LOL I knew it was "real" when I started having to fantasize that my then-boyfriend was not a bio-guy in order to be able to be with him intimately. (hmmm, not subtle, hey?) That was when I was 18. I came out as femme a couple years later, when I realized that the reason "lesbian" felt like a dirty word on me was because there was something else that fit like a second-skin. I think I've known FFGM since not too long after that, when I joined an email list for b/f folks and found some real "family" and mentorship and support. *squeezes* ~k I came out to my parents during Christmas break, when I was 20. That was the year I also came home with tattoos and a tongue piercing (that lovely jewel is long-gone, btw). I tried to hide those things, but mom noticed the tongue right away, and when she came in to wake me up one morning the sleeves of my t-shirt had hitched up and she noticed the tattoos. *gulp* And that was *before* the talk!
We were sitting at the dining room table, having tea. My step-dad was elsewhere…maybe out, maybe downstairs watching football? I told her that I had something I wanted to tell her…that I was dating someone new, and *her* name was N. She was surprised, for sure – I’d had boyfriends in high-school and afterwards – but also really supportive. She suggested that maybe *she* should tell my dad. I found out later that his response was something to the effect of: “maybe she’ll have better taste in women”. LOL
I knew it was “real” when I started having to fantasize that my then-boyfriend was not a bio-guy in order to be able to be with him intimately. (hmmm, not subtle, hey?) That was when I was 18. I came out as femme a couple years later, when I realized that the reason “lesbian” felt like a dirty word on me was because there was something else that fit like a second-skin.
I think I’ve known FFGM since not too long after that, when I joined an email list for b/f folks and found some real “family” and mentorship and support.
*squeezes*
~k

]]> By: Scintillectual http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/comment-page-1/#comment-434 Scintillectual Sat, 03 Oct 2009 02:05:06 +0000 http://femmefairygodmother.com/?p=612#comment-434 Here's how I told my parents. Me (by phone): "Mom, Dad...John and I broke up." Dad: "It must be something really serious if you two broke up!" Me: "I guess so. I'm gay." deafening silence. Dad: "Well, okay then...(clears throat) well, you know that we love you anyway, no matter what. Isn't that right, Honey? Uh, honey? I'm sorry, sweetheart, your mom just had to run to the bathroom." Here’s how I told my parents.

Me (by phone): “Mom, Dad…John and I broke up.” Dad: “It must be something really serious if you two broke up!” Me: “I guess so. I’m gay.”

deafening silence.

Dad: “Well, okay then…(clears throat) well, you know that we love you anyway, no matter what. Isn’t that right, Honey? Uh, honey? I’m sorry, sweetheart, your mom just had to run to the bathroom.”

]]> By: Camlin http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/comment-page-1/#comment-433 Camlin Fri, 02 Oct 2009 23:55:17 +0000 http://femmefairygodmother.com/?p=612#comment-433 It's so awesome that you had positive female role models when you were younger. It’s so awesome that you had positive female role models when you were younger.

]]> By: Akki http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/comment-page-1/#comment-432 Akki Fri, 02 Oct 2009 22:35:15 +0000 http://femmefairygodmother.com/?p=612#comment-432 I loved being a gigola. I loved being a gigola.

]]> By: Dragon http://femmefairygodmother.com/2009/10/02/the-coming-out-story-totally-nonscandalous/comment-page-1/#comment-430 Dragon Fri, 02 Oct 2009 18:49:00 +0000 http://femmefairygodmother.com/?p=612#comment-430 I hear ya, my story is a bit scandalous that won't be made public. But enjoyed your story! I hear ya, my story is a bit scandalous that won’t be made public. But enjoyed your story!

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