I used to write a blog called Dichotomous Nature. That actually describes me well. An example?

This is my favorite poem ever. It’s by Rumi.

The minute I heard my first love story
I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind that was.

Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.
They’re in each other all along.

I believe that to be true. I also do not believe in the concept of “soul mates” as in there is only one person with whom I am meant to be. If I believed that, I’d be pretty screwed right now, wouldn’t I? Being divorced and all.

How to reconcile those two things?

There’s the question.

I’ve been thinking about relationships a bit lately. I’m in no way prepared to be in one now – at least not a serious one – but I know I will one day, even if it’s not for 10 years.

Hell, I’m not even sure I believe in Happily Ever After. It’s hard to hold on to that optimism after having thought you were going to be married to the same person for the rest of your life. I would like to think that it’s possible to be with the same person, happily with the same person, forever but I just don’t know. I’m 42, though, so that increases my odds, right? Not as long to be married. *grin*

Of course, I pretty much have to wait to have that relationship until after I no longer feel like she would be my second choice. That’s no way to begin a relationship. I have to be fully finished with the last one.

When I am in a relationship again, even as I know she isn’t The Only One, I want that sense of recognition that she is The One. I want to be with someone who feels like we’ve been waiting to find each other. Metaphysically, I think people are drawn to us for a reason. I wish I knew what was going to be the thing that draws my next love to me.

I’m practical. It’s not that I think The One and I will never have disagreements or times that are less than fabulous. We will. I want to be with someone who is also my friend. Someone who I can tell the difficult things to as well as share the wonderful. I’m mostly wonderful with just a little bit of difficult thrown in. Still, everyone has some difficult. Mine are just more dramatic than some people’s difficult.

And you all? Do you believe in soul mates? Do you believe in Happily Ever After? Can you imagine living the rest of your life with the same woman? Or man for the odd straight chick or two who read this. If you have met Your One, how did you know?